Being in love is really what life is all about.  If we could all just be in love with our lives, our partners, our careers, and ourselves, we would have little to complain about and we'd have unlimited enthusiasm for everything we want to accomplish.

This great love affair with our lives begins with our love affair with our Self.
Self-love is the foundation of everything I teach.  It's fundamental to Law of Attraction practice.   For without Self-love, every other love we desire will elude us.  Our ability to attract love whether it be through a partner, a career we are in love with, or children who bring us joy, is directly related to our ability to love our own Self.

What if we were to really love our own Self starting right now?  What would this look like?  It would certainly mean that we would stop beating ourselves up for not being perfect. It would mean accepting the dark parts of ourselves as well as the light.  Accepting our broken hearts and broken promises; accepting our resignation and our fears.  It would mean accepting ourselves right where we are in our growth and development and recognizing that we are exactly where we should be-even if there is more work to do.

Loving ourselves would also mean treating ourselves like we matter.  We would take care to spend time with ourselves, to nurture our spirits to take care of our bodies, and to do things that feed our souls.  It's interesting that if we had a partner who said they loved us but never spent any quality time with us, we would conclude that the partner really doesn't love us at all.  And yet, some people will go weeks, months, and even years neglecting their needs, their bodies, their spirits-all the things that show themselves that they are loved-and then they try to convince themselves that they have Self love. 

Love is a verb as they say.  So to love yourself, you have to do things for yourself.  We don't say we love our children and then neglect them.  So start now making time to show yourself that you are important, that your time is important, that what you need and want are important.  We all have to do some things that we don't love, like washing the dishes and balancing the checkbook; however, some people spend eight to ten hours a day at jobs they hate, jobs that rob them little by little of their light.  Some people spend months, years and even decades in relationship with someone who does not treat them the way they long to be treated.  Some people accept demeaning or abusive relationships which ultimately reveals their own lack of Self-love.  For if a person loves him or herself, they will attract a partner who loves them.  When we truly love ourselves, we cannot accept anything less or attract anything less in our relationships.

What if today you make a commitment to yourself to look at the ways you want to be loved?  Choose three ways to begin to love your Self better and commit to those three things for three months.  Maybe you want to spend more time in nature, take a course to nurture your soul, eat healthier.   Maybe you want to stop negative Self talk.

I invite you right now to make such a commitment to yourself.  To show yourself that you are loved and that you are worth it.  Decide on three things and commit to three months of loving yourself better. By the time you spend three months loving yourself better, it will become a habit for you.  You won't want to stop!  Be specific on how you will implement the changes.  For example, I'm going to spend time in nature once a week.  I am going to enroll in a class next week. Or, I am going to cook a healthy dinner at least four nights a week. 

 Loving yourself better might even be about starting to look for a job that feeds your soul.  So for the next three months, you might commit to sending out three resumes a week. Being specific helps you to know that you are following through on your commitment.  It gives you "measurable goals."  But the real yardstick here is how you feel.  If you feel more loved and appreciated and valued by yourself, then you've succeeded; and guess what, you will then attract more love and appreciation from others.

Loving our Self is the first step to creating a life that we are in love with.  And there is no better feeling than waking up every day in love with who we are, in love with our partner, and in love with our life.

Light and Love~

Pamela