One
learns through the heart, not the eyes or the intellect.~Mark
Twain
The
real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new
landscapes, but in having new eyes. ~Marcel
Proust
Shifting
to the Heart Allows Us to Face Reality
and There the
Healing and Growth Can Begin
My
27th of September ezine was about the importance of
learning to shift from a negative to a positive state so that
we can process our hurts and disappointments ourselves and not
take them out on our partner (or the gardener or anyone else).
In response to that ezine, I received some
great questions, one of which I wrote about last week. Here is
the second: If we are always shifting
back to our hearts, are we just seeing the world through rose
colored glasses?
Though
perhaps not originally used this way, the phrase is now most
commonly used as an insult to suggest that someone is too
optimistic or innocent and needs to wake up and face reality.
But the method of shifting back into one's heart in
order to process negative emotions actually involves facing
reality, not avoiding it. In the heart, we
can not only see but accept the reality of what is; whereas
whenever we are functioning from our gut, we see things in a
distorted fashion. To illuminate this, I
will use an example that I'm sure you've all experienced in
one way or another. My husband and I once
had a disagreement over something and we both got upset and
reactive. This is something we rarely do,
as we've worked a lot on shifting back into our hearts
immediately, but our buttons got pushed and the next thing you
know, we were in the midst of a heated discussion.
After
we both calmed down and got back into our hearts, we realized
that we were arguing about two different things entirely, and
to our surprise, we both agreed with each other on the
separate stances we each had taken. In our
upset, we had not been hearing what each other was saying, but
instead, what we thought the other was saying.
This
happens in different ways all the time. When
people are in third chakra upset mode (feeling hurt or angry),
they are selfish; they aren't seeing the situation with any
objectivity. They can't even hear the other
person much less see the other person's point of view. Nor can
they see that what they are experiencing, they attracted for a
reason, and they have something important to learn.
This distorted view leads to more negativity, whether
it be more upset, anger, resentment, revenge or depression.
Until
we shift out of the third chakra and into our heart, we can
never heal; we can never forgive ourselves or anyone else; we
can never open to the divine guidance regarding our own
lessons. Instead, we stay stuck, learning
nothing from our experience and destined to repeat it over and
over. For until these upsets, which
ultimately have to do with us not the other person or the
outer experience, are processed in our hearts and those places
within us are healed, we will go on creating the drama to
bring us that upset again and again, as the universe begs us
to deal with our issues.
So
living from the heart is not like living life with the
proverbial rose-colored glasses. For when
we shift into the fourth chakra, the heart, we can not only
accept reality but gain insight into it, and ultimately open
to the lessons we need to learn. This
allows us to take responsibility for our feelings, heal those
wounds we need to heal, become more aware, more conscious,
more loving, and ultimately live more authentic and fulfilling
lives.
Love,
Peace, and Joy~
Pamela
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