"Let
your religion be less of a theory and more of a love
affair."
~G.K. Chesterton
Using
the Law of Attraction Principles Makes Your Life More
Beautiful and Harmonious
With the Law of
Attraction/Consciousness as Cause work moving into mainstream
by way of The Secret as well as many other sources,
there are some misconceptions that need clarification if we
are going to use these for the betterment of our relationships
and our lives. Here is a general rule of
thumb: If your life isn't more beautiful
and harmonious as a result of how you're interpreting (and
using) the Law of Attraction principles, then you must be
misinterpreting it.
The Law of Attraction teaches us that we are co-creators with
the Field, that it is our consciousness and what we identify
with that ultimately allows the Field to serve up our reality
to us just exactly as we have intended, whether intentionally
or not.
While this is extremely empowering and
urges us to take radical responsibility for our lives, it
seems to occasionally be a way for people to avoid taking
responsibility for their actions and even respond in very
callous ways. In practicing the Law
of Attraction principles, however, we don't ever blame the
victim for the crime. We don't say, well,
that person in the car crash created that reality so the drunk
driver is off the hook. Certainly the
person hit by a drunk driver needed to learn something, and
that's exactly what this work can enable a person to see.
But just because our consciousness is the cause doesn't
mean that another's actions are not hurtful, misguided or even
just plain wrong.
Here is another more personal example: A
friend recently went overboard with her teasing, and her
friend mentioned that the teasing was not funny but hurtful.
Rather than taking responsibility for making comments
that hurt her friend, her response was, "Why are you
perpetrating this?" While it is true
that her friend had indeed attracted this experience for a
reason-which is her responsibility to look at-this was not an
appropriate response, and of course it added insult to injury.
My friend misinterpreted the Law of Attraction
principles and disrespected the feelings her friend.
When anyone we care about tells us that
our words or behavior have been hurtful to them, the only
appropriate response is to be apologetic, even if we feel that
the person perceived something different from our intended
meaning. The point is that their feelings
are real and, even if we hadn't meant any harm, we have to
accept that our words or actions landed differently than we
anticipated. We may explain further what
our intentions were after apologizing, but it's always
important to acknowledge the other person's feelings first.
The Law of Attraction/Consciousness as Cause concepts are
profoundly elegant, and one of the most important points is
that alignment-when our intentions and desires are one-is
beautiful and harmonious. It's that feeling
that we're "in the flow," allowing the Universe to
move through us. So if you are aligned, you
will feel beautiful and harmonious.
When we truly shift from being the effect
of our experience to being the conscious cause, we remain
poised and respectful when we are criticized. We
can own what we need to and let the rest roll off of us. Never
should we use our knowledge of the Law of Attraction as an
instrument for denial, willfulness or callousness; it is not
to keep us from looking at our own behavior but to become
masters of self-observation. Observations
and criticisms of our friends and family should be taken to
heart and appreciated, especially when they are pointed out in
a spirit of love and helpfulness. But even
when the observations are a projection of someone's own stuff,
that's okay. Rather than rushing in to
defend ourselves, what if we just quietly take in what we need
to and discard the rest without a fight? Remember
that alignment is beautiful and harmonious and that it feels
beautiful and harmonious. So if we are
truly aligned, we should not feel defensive. If
there is no truth in an observation, there is nothing to
defend against.
Any therapy, religion or new way of
looking at the world is worthless if it doesn't help us have
better relationships with our family and friends. So
take the time to think about how the Law of Attraction can
make you a better friend and/or partner. The
next time you are inclined to react defensively or
dismissively, step back for a moment and consider how you
might respond as a person who is aligned and feels beautiful
and harmonious. If you come from that
place, your results and all that you attract will also be
beautiful and harmonious.
Love and Joy~
Pamela
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